Tomorrow is the big day - we meet Friday morning at 10:00 at Paradise Park. I'd like to bring him a gift, but I have no idea what he likes! Does his family allow him exposure to pop culture things like Spiderman? I am going to white a letter to his foster mom and tell her that we have similar faiths and that we hope to maintain his relationship with them. I'd really like to get that line of communication open.
I am wrestling with whether or not to bring Sebastian to this first meeting. At first I was sure that I should, I know I'm not totally objective because I love him so much, but I am sure that he is as compassionate and empathetic and a six year old could possibly be. I initially felt like he would be the perfect ambassador to make Tyler feel more comfortable at the first meeting . . . rather than Tyler just looking at me.
The social workers recommended, though, that I go alone. They think that establishing his connection with me first was important. I thought about it for a long time and came to agree - that he and I should have a quiet introduction and a little conversation.
Then I went looking for advice, and asked for some here, at Adoption.com. The parents there who answered my post all seemed to feel that it may be more realistic that Tyler would bond with Sebastian first, not me.
So now, I just don't know. I have 24 hours to make up my mind . . . .
Also - I want to bring someone to take pictures. Is that weird? I was thinking just a few taken through a long lens . . . but if he winds up permanently in our family - won't I want something from that first meeting for the scrapbook? On the other hand . . . if it goes badly, we may all want to forget tomorrow . . . I just don't know.
